Quotes from participants:
Feedback from participants in a Restorative Circle
“I was very curious to see how it would go. I had never experienced anything like it.
My reason for participating was twofold: on the one hand, I wanted to see how you were going to handle it, and on the other hand I wanted to get rid of my anger and frustration.
During the pre-circle, I was struck by your sincere interest and listening without any judgement. That is something I also try to do, but I don’t always succeed.
At the outset of the restorative circle itself I was very tense. But during the exchanges and with your guidance, that disappeared. I felt heard and respected. The tension went away.
“During the pre-circle, I became aware of a very old fear, which I had blocked away until then. That was very healing. It was as if I found a piece of myself back that I had lost.
Several times, I wanted to go faster and I was called back. One step at a time. Only through true contact, ca the next step be taken. The quality of your listening and the immense space to examine what exactly was touched, allowed for a deep healing.
Afterwards, I could see the whole process that had led to the conflict, and also my own role. All the pieces of the puzzle fell into place once I became calm inside.
Thanks to Restorative Circles I could see what happened as an enormous lesson which made me stronger.
Thank you for that!”
Feedback from participants in Restorative Circles at a primary school
The girls in Class 8:
“I myself did not like the Restorative Circle at all, but it did help in the end. By speaking with each other and understanding each other, it’s impossible not to understand each other. Things are ok now in class. If we have a problem or a conflict or just something we want to speak to each other about, we sit in a circle and we speak just like in the ‘restorative circle’. Almost always, just one circle is enough! The time-out also works well. We use it if we need more time and when it’s ok, we can get on with each other again. So thanks! Cheers.”
“We learned to understand each other better.”
“We (the girls) can handle small conflicts ourselves, we are not angry as often any more and if there’s an issue, we talk about it.”
Training and Restorative Circle at Perspectivity Nederland
‘Restorative Circles, the importance of being heard’:
Together with Foundation Herstelcirkels, Perspectivity (www.perspectivity.org) organized a facilitators’ training for the members of her network, consultants and others. During two days, the participants practised intensively and experienced the challenges of facilitating a restorative process. The semi-simulated circles provided beautiful examples and insights for the conflicting parties. And we felt the deep impact of rediscovering our common humanity. It was an important experience for all those present.
“‘It was good to discover the power of the restorative circles, to not only know that it works, but to actually experience that it works.” Perspectivity installed the Restorative system and about a year later, a Restorative Circe was held.
In this video, the facilitator and participants tell about the effects:
Film by Carolyn Davies